Thirteen Maxims of Secular Sobriety
break the cycle of denial and achieve sobriety, we first acknowledge
that we have become chemically dependent and that the consequences of
that dependency are unacceptable.
- We accept that we will probably need some outside help in achieving
abstinence, because we have been unsuccessful in previous attempts to
resist our desire to drink or use drugs.
- Sobriety and drug abstinence is our priority, and we are each responsible
for our lives and our sobriety.
- We will approach sobriety one day at a time because we know we can
do something for 24 hours which might overwhelm us if we thought we
had to keep it up for a lifetime.
- We accept, and reaffirm daily, that in order to get better we will
probably have to refrain from any use of drugs or alcohol, because any
use will very likely lead us to more and then a return to our pervious
- We share anonymously and in confidence with each other our thoughts
and feelings as sober, clean individuals.
- We surrender all ideas of perfection for ourselves and others and
our first goal is to learn to accept ourselves as we are, fallible yet
worthwhile human beings.
- We place a high value on the principles of rationality, learning,
objectivity, forgiveness, compassion, and respect for self and others.
- Since life is filled with uncertainties, we do not drink or use regardless
of feelings, circumstances, or conflicts.
- Recognizing that we do not have complete control over our destinies
but are not completely "powerless" over our lives, we will "change the
things we can change, accept those things we can't change, and seek
the wisdom to know the difference."
- Since drinking or using drugs is probably not a wise choice for us,
we take whatever steps are necessary to continue our sobriety lifelong.
Having gained a reasonable expectation that we can live meaningful lives
without alcohol or drugs, we may gradually separate ourselves from our
recovery group with the understanding that we may return at any time.
- We accept that there are no perfect solutions to life's problems;
therefore, we are willing to take risks to promote healthy personal
growth--- using such tools as journal writing, support groups, psychotherapy,
self-study, confiding in others, amends and restitution, and the risk
of loving others.
- We recognize the need of many others for a secular recovery plan,
so we will offer these ideas to them as a way of providing a secular